Episode Transcript
In this and the next episode, we are tackling a big emotion that can influence your life without you even knowing it. You know I love to talk about manifesting and creating the life that you want. Unworthiness is one of the fundamental emotions that can sabotage all of your efforts and hold you back from receiving. So stay tuned!
The topic of feeling worthy or unworthy is very personal for me at this moment. I had the insight coming through in one of my meditations that I want to feel more worthy to receive. It was a manifesting meditation and I suddenly received the message to feel more worthy to be able to manifest.
It was a surprise to me that I did not feel worthy already. But I never really thought about it. I never considered that I did not feel worthy enough to receive what I was trying to manifest. But that was clearly something that I needed to start looking at. So I am doing that together with you now!
※ WHAT IS THE FEELING OF UNWORTHINESS? ※
I want to concentrate on the feelings of worthiness and unworthiness in these 2 episodes. These are not emotions that we often talk about but they carry a lot of power and can have a huge impact on our lives – and most of the time without us even knowing it. We don’t talk a lot about feeling worthy or unworthy. So I want to start raising our understanding of what it actually means.
We all have a different understanding of worthiness and unworthiness – our understanding is based on stories and experiences from our lives. That creates our belief in what it means to feel unworthy or worthy. So let’s start with creating a common concept of what unworthiness means.
※ FEELING GUILTY FOR YOUR CURRENT SITUATION ※
One way unworthiness shows up in your life is if you feel guilty and punish yourself for your current situation, your illness, or your stuckness; You blame yourself for being in a situation and think that it is your fault. If there is something you want to create in your life and you have not so far received it, you might blame yourself for not yet having manifested it. Again you think and believe that it is your fault that it has not happened yet. If you have thoughts like that, you are carrying feelings of unworthiness inside of you.
※ FEELING UNDESERVING OF YOUR SUCCESS ※
I talked about the next point in a recent episode about the symptoms of imposter syndrome (Episode 35) and that was the feeling of not deserving something. The feeling of unworthiness goes hand in hand with the feeling of undeserving. It means that you don’t think that you are enough to receive who you truly want to be. If you feel undeserving of something you are keeping it away from yourself. You want it and you crave it in your life but at the same time, you don’t believe you deserve it and therefore you keep it away – it won’t appear like that.
※ LIMITING YOURSELF TO MANIFEST ※
Another way that unworthiness shows up in your life is by limiting your potential based on your current status or your upbringing. You look at your life right now or up to this moment and you believe that the circumstances and conditions in your life are limiting you somehow. Let’s say you believe that you grew up poor or you did not go to university. You now feel unworthy to become the CEO of a company or the next president of your country. You feel unworthy of a bigger future based on the conditions of your past.
But can you see that this limitation is just created in your thoughts, in your mind? We all know of amazing success stories, of people that have overcome hardship and harsh conditions in their lives to become famous, successful and great leaders. If they did it, so can you!
If you have feelings of unworthiness you are self-sabotaging your life. You want to get a promotion at work? But deep inside you don’t feel deserving or worthy of that promotion then you will do things or not do things that will sabotage your receiving of the promotion. Quite often this is displayed in our life through inaction. We just don’t take the right action to get the promotion.
※ RESISTANCE, EXCUSES AND INACTION ※
We make excuses for why we cannot take certain actions. We resist stepping out of our comfort zone and taking the action that would bring us the promotion. The feeling of unworthiness inside of us needs to be fueled, it needs energy. And inaction toward our goals, excuses that we cannot do something, or that it’s just not the right time, is the energy that fuels that feeling. It keeps it alive. It’s like our body is addicted to it, so used to it that it becomes the normal state of being.
※ AMAZED BY THE UNWORTHINESS ※
When I realized that I wanted to look at my feelings of unworthiness, I started to feel them deeply hidden inside of me. I have worked for the last years on overcoming my old self, changing my old habits and beliefs. Being more open to new opportunities. Mostly I have practised stepping into the unknown and trusting the universe that my life will unfold exactly how it is supposed to. I am in a much better place to let go of controlling everything and holding on to my past, my old self.
That’s what I have been working on a lot! And now I am suddenly faced with the feeling of unworthiness. As if it was lurking behind all of that other stuff, just waiting for me to be ready to face this one now as my next challenge, as the next feeling that does not serve me anymore, the next program inside of my subconscious to be released.
I was amazed that there was so much unworthiness inside of me – I never would have thought it. I never felt it consciously before.
※ GRATEFUL TO FIND THIS FEELING SO IT DOES NOT STOP ME FROM MANIFESTING ※
In the past, I always called myself confident. I know that I do a good job at what I do and that I am capable and intelligent enough to reach what I want to reach. But now that I am tackling bigger goals, the unworthiness comes up. It shows up so I deal with it now because I won’t be able to reach my goals with these feelings being still part of me.
I am glad that it comes up. So grateful realizing how far I have made progress in my self-actualization and getting to know myself and letting go of my past self. I am now ready for something that I was not even aware of. I am grateful for my meditation practice that it shows me this kind of stuff when I am ready – that it just gives me this message and that I am now able to listen to these messages during my mediations.
In the past, such a message just never came to me. Or it would have been really painful through events that would have gone wrong in my life – so I would look closer at it. The universe gives you messages. But if you don’t listen then they keep getting louder and more painful.
※ DO YOU WANT TO FEEL UNWORTHY? ※
If you are feeling unworthy, it can destroy all of the hard work that you are putting into something. You worked so hard on something and you achieved it but if you feel unworthy of the achievement, you will either fall back into old habits or you will end up in the same place as you were at the beginning. We don’t want that, right? No, we don’t.
I hope this first episode gave you a solid introduction to the feeling of unworthiness and how it can show up in your life. So take some time and look closer. Check-in with your thoughts, actions and feelings and see if one or several of the possibilities I described apply to your life.
Check out the next episode where we talk more about worthiness and how we start to feel worthy and let go of unworthiness.
