Episode Transcript
In last week’s episode, we talked about the emotion of unworthiness (Episode 48). We clarified what it actually means, how it can show up in your life and what consequences it has. It stops you from receiving what you want to manifest.
In this episode, we will look at how we can let go of unworthiness and step into the feeling of worthiness.
I mentioned in last week’s episode that I am working through my feelings of unworthiness. And everything I listed last week resonates with me – some more and some less. Let’s briefly review them together.
Unworthiness can show up in the following ways:
- Feeling guilty or punishing ourselves for being in our current situations, as if it is our fault
- Feelings of not deserving something
- Limiting your potential based on your current situation or upbringing
- Feeling unworthy means that you are self-sabotaging your efforts and hard work – or you are stuck in inaction.
If I am really honest with myself then I can find evidence for all of them in my life. I can come up with times or situations where I had thoughts in my mind that made me feel guilty, undeserving, limited and stuck in inaction.
For sure I have programs inside of me that let me self-sabotage my efforts and stop me from taking the next steps towards my future self. And I say “No more to that”. Now that I raised the awareness of these patterns and feelings,
“I call myself out when I see them. I say: Linda, stop it!”
Now, the question is what else can we do to move from unworthiness to worthiness. Breaking the patterns, beliefs and behaviours of unworthiness is one way. But something else showed up for me that I want to share with you.
※ BEING IN AND OUT OF INTEGRITY WITH YOURSELF ※
And that is integrity. Integrity in my life and in my environment that includes the people in my life. But more importantly integrity to myself. So let’s look closer at what that actually means and how it can help you to feel more worthy.
“The first step is to take ownership of your life.”
And that means for everything in your life and that has got you to be who and where you currently are. Not blaming your environment, other people or circumstances in your life – because that means that you are giving our power away. If you give your power away to outside influences, you are never able to truly change because you are not in control. If you want to change something fundamental about yourself and move towards worthiness, take your power back first.
Take full responsibility for your actions, and take ownership of who you are and who you have become. Just when you are accepting that you are the owner of your complete life, are you able to move on, right? This means that you can move from feeling unworthy of your desired change to feeling worthy and deserving of it. Because you are in full power and full acceptance you can change and move towards your future self.
※ FEELING WORTHY IS CONNECTED TO INTEGRITY ※
If you follow your truth, if you do what you say you will do, you are in integrity. Your words have meaning and power.
That does not mean pushing yourself to be something or do something that you don’t really want to do. Move with grace into the unknown. Step out of your comfort zone with the trust that you will be ok.
Remember in the previous episode we talked about how the feeling of unworthiness or undeserving can show up as inaction? Not following through with your plans or the next step towards your goal or dream, leaves you feeling unworthy again because you lost your integrity.
※ STEP INTO INTEGRITY NOW ※
The good news is that you can decide to be in integrity with yourself in every minute of your life. Stop judging yourself for what has happened in the past. Stop being upset when you realized that you have not been in integrity for something that happened this morning or yesterday.
You can decide to start with a clean slate and move into integrity with yourself right this second. It means that you keep your word to yourself, even if it gets uncomfortable. Even if you don’t feel like it. Even if you think that you cannot do it and fears of what might happen come up.
If you spend more quality time in integrity with yourself and even others, you will automatically feel more worthy. You know that you followed through with your plans and you kept your word. It does not matter the outcome but you can say that you did it, you took action and you gave your best.
※ FEEL WORTHY TO RECEIVE ※
And when you can say that to yourself, you feel good about yourself. You feel worthy to receive. You feel like you deserve to move away from how you felt previously and move to a feeling of being proud and accomplished.
Do you see that you can feel worthy without having even reached your goals?
You can detach yourself from the outcome and make your state of being not dependent on your goals. If you go through your life with integrity, take meaningful actions and be open to feeling uncomfortable at times, you feel worthy just for that.
“This is the magical moment when a lot of people suddenly and unexpectedly receive what they were wishing for.”
When they were able to feel worthy and deserving without having achieved the goal. When they stopped waiting to receive and waiting to feel worthy. When they started to feel worthy through their everyday actions and being more in integrity.
So how can we be more in integrity, especially with ourselves?
Not being in integrity means breaking a promise to yourself. It’s areas in your life where you’ve been given your word, and you have not followed through.
※ YOUR EGO WANTS TO HIDE YOUR LACK OF INTEGRITY FROM YOU – AND ME ※
We don’t experience out of integrity as out of integrity. We can’t see the integrity issue, we see the justification for why we did not do something. (Episode 47) It might be the cause or the excuse why we have not done what we said we would do.
Watch outs for statements like:
“I don’t feel like it.”
“There is not enough time.”
” I can’t get it done. I won’t make it.”
“The weather is making me feel tired. I don’t think I can get it done today.”
It’s not about taking it personally or beating yourself up. It’s not about judging yourself or punishing yourself for not having accomplished something. Integrity is either there or it is not. It’s either switched on or it’s off.
※ WHY IS INTEGRITY IMPORTANT? ※
It’s for you to see how powerful and important it is in your life to follow through on your word, to keep your promise to yourself. And why is it so important? It’s important because you can step from feelings of unworthiness, judgement, guilt, disappointment, shame, anger, and sadness into feelings of worthiness, proudness, accomplishment, satisfied with your efforts.
If you want to move towards being more in integrity with yourself, stop making promises that you probably are not going to keep. Stop giving your word to things that you don’t really want to commit to.
You want to be your word! Actually, you are already your word – all the time. But by giving your word and not keeping it, you create unworthiness, stress and dissatisfaction in your inner world. Can you see that?
※ WHAT TO DO WHEN YOU REALIZE THAT YOU ARE OUT OF INTEGRITY ※
When you become aware of an area in your life that you haven’t been your word, what do you do? You own up to it, you accept that it happened but that you want to change it now.
If this area in your life is impacting people in your life, then communicate with them about your decision of moving out of integrity and changing into integrity. Can you imagine how powerful it is for you and your relationships if you can communicate of you have been out of integrity and that you decided to move back into integrity?
How it can help you to stay in integrity when you discuss this with the people involved? This might be with your partner, your spouse, your child, your mum or dad, your boss, or your co-worker.
※ YOU KNOW WHAT? ALL OF THIS IS SIMPLE – BUT IT IS NOT EASY. ※
We can be out of integrity all the time without us knowing and realizing that this is the reason why we feel unworthy, upset or ashamed. When you make this decision to be in integrity with yourself and others, you claim your power back, you get energy back in your life to fuel the actions you want to take to keep your word.
“So, make a list of all the areas you might have been out of integrity in your life.”
You want to find opportunities in your life to restore your integrity, spend more of your day in integrity and bring more worthiness, accomplishment and satisfaction into your world.
※ DON’T BECOME THE INTEGRITY POLICE ※
This is not about becoming the integrity police walking around and judging everyone around you who is not in integrity or judging even yourself. This process of moving into integrity can become a habit, an automated behaviour but it needs practice. You want to unlearn being out of integrity and relearn how to be in integrity. Does that make sense?
And does this then mean that you will never be out of integrity ever again? No. Because every time you go for bigger goals and you do something new, you will be more out of integrity again because things take longer than you expect, or things just don’t work out how you think they would. Thats’ ok. It is normal and expected in these situations.
So have I inspired you to want to feel more worthy? To be more in integrity with yourself? This is not something that can just stay a concept in your head. This is a concept that needs to be lived daily to be fully experienced and for it to work. So don’t just keep it in your head as a great idea, follow-through, try it out today, make this list and chose an area where you decide to move into integrity today.
Make sure to share this episode with a loved one that can benefit from this message. Share it with as many friends as possible so you can practise integrity and worthiness together. Would that not be awesome? Yes, it would!
